My 2 cents about changing your name

I took off work last Monday to change my name at the Social Security Office and the DMV and all I can say is…what the heck did I agree to? In NYC, not sure about other states, to change your SS#, you can either mail your original SS card, your original marriage license, the change form, and any other original paperwork you need, or else you come in and do it. For me, mailing all that important info was just not an option, so I opted to go in. All I can say ladies, is just be prepared to wait and do your homework..find out if your local office actually does the new cards or not (the one by me apparently does not and I had to go elsewhere), and make sure you have all your paperwork or else they are not going to help you. Same goes for the DMV….check the website and make sure you have everything because you wait a LOOOOOOONG time, and getting turned away is the WORST.

For my forms, I actually used the MissNowMrs program and was really glad at how easy it was. I was happy to have all the forms in one place…I can only hope with the next version they’ll be able to figure out a way to have the program wait in line for me.

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  1. Katherine

    I know, so terrible! I ended up spending more than 9 hours total at the SS office (2 days – I waited 4 hours the first time then had to leave, 5+ the second). Luckily, I only spent an hour at the DMV but had to wait 2 weeks to do that until I got my new SS card in the mail. Oye. However, I think it was not difficult to acquire all the paperwork if you just check the website of each place you need to change your name (and free :D). Just boring to do all that waiting!

  2. Carlene

    Great advice! Maybe I shouldn’t change my last name!! 😀

  3. Michele

    For the SS office I made my husband come with me and suffer the 4 hours too.

    I shouldn’t have to go through this by myself – when its his name I’m taking and I had mine for 28 yrs.

    I only have my license left to do…I’m totally procrastinating on it though.
    I plan on bringing my husband to that one too 😉

  4. Anna

    I’m going through this process right now too! I also had a long wait at the SS office, but the DMV was pretty painless (in CA you can make an appointment online so you don’t have to wait). But now I’m in the process of changing all the other things – bank accounts, credit cards, passport, tax documents, insurance policies, titles – the list goes on and on, and it’s NOT fun. Even though I’m trying really hard to be methodical about it, it’s very confusing. Sheesh. What we do for our men! =)

  5. Courtney

    oh, that was the biggest headache. i can’t even bring myself to fill out the forms to change my name with comcast and at&t. if i see another form i might go into convulsions.

  6. Brooke Rane

    like everyone else on here who’s commented, i AGREE!! it’s the absolute worst, biggest hassle to switch all that name info. nevermind that i went for 2 years with only the SSN and my credit cards changed and then finally got around to my license…but in end it’s worth it, right?!

  7. Ellie

    good to know! i’m in the ‘to change or not to change’ phase of the process right now. what a dilemma, for me.

    and, thank you so much for adding me to your blogroll by the way… i’m so flattered and you’ve definitely made my day!

  8. Anonymous

    Wow– so interesting to hear where fellow fiancees are at. My mom kept her name at a time when people called her a feminazi– she told me that she just didn’t want to be defined as someone else’s property, even if it was someone she loved.

    I’m so glad that it’s not a fight for me now. My fiance’s even thinking about taking mine. I guess that’s the definition of romance to me: not doing what’s expected, making the choice for yourself. So few men grapple with these questions of how to combine heritages (somehow, it’s the woman’s that always gets lost) I’m so glad my sweetie is.


  9. Anonymous

    Be thankful you’re not a man trying to change your name to your wife’s — much harder for them to do so.

    Not in New York. My husband and I both changed our names, and we didn’t notice it being worse for him. There’s a space for a man’s name change on the NYS form, it’s just that no one uses it!

    Interestingly, I went down to the social security office with his info filled out by him and signed, and the guy let me do it for myself and him at the same time. I don’t know if that’s legal, but it was a slow day, so maybe folks have a little more fun on the slow days.

    And both of us changing our names made it MUCH easier for me. He’s the one who figured out what we had to do for frequent flyer miles, which is an unbelievable pain.

    Still, it’s funny how even in states where it’s just as easy for a man to do it as a woman, that almost no men actually do!

  10. Inspired Goodness

    I totally had the same horrible experience. I did both the DMV and SS office in downtown Brooklyn and after 8 hrs. of waiting in line, was going ga-ga.

    Also used Miss now Mrs. and it was super helpful for keeping me organized throughout the process.

  11. Anonymous

    If you think that experience was bad, just wait until we have socialized health care. Personally, I can’t wait for the hospital to start running as efficiently as the SS office and the DMV!

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