What does it mean? Cédric and Lindsey

What does it mean?” is a continuing series where we ask a blogger how they used their wedding as an expression of their union with their significant other. Today we are honored to hear from Lindsey Tramuta and her husband Cédric. Lindsey is the blogger of Lost in Cheeseland where she writes about her experience living in France through food, travel, and love. She contributes to a number of web and print publications. Cédric is an aeronautical engineer specialized in aerodynamics for a French company that manufactures airplane engines  In all his spare time, he can be found bouldering in Fontainebleau and rock climbing throughout Europe when time allows. 

As enriching as it is to live abroad, the implications of such a choice are inherently complicated. Enter into a multi-cultural relationship and complications are heightened even further. When Cédric and I announced our engagement to friends and family, we included a caveat – the nuptials would take place in Paris, six months later. At the time, many of my friends in the States were grad students on tight, no-travel budgets and knew immediately that, despite their earnest wishes, attending our wedding wouldn’t be possible. The same was true for most of my family.

Six months of preparations began and to my surprise, I was comfortable leaving most of the organizational elements to Cédric and his mother, who was eager to help. Despite this distance, the stress mounted. How would I feel having only a small group of my friends and only my father with me in Paris to celebrate? Would the wedding feel… official?

Before and after the ceremony, I watched as my father slipped between groups of guests to introduce himself and learn how each and every one of them warmed our lives in different ways. I saw the connections develop between him and my in-laws and I felt his joy as Cédric and I took our first steps as husband and wife. At the reception, my father could hardly utter a full thought in his speech before welling with tears. But what he did manage to say left us both overcome with emotion. I looked around the room to see some of my new friends and a few old pals who did make the trip abroad, and they too were moved by the moment. It was in the midst of this moment that I realized that no other celebration would feel as real and meaningful.

*Note: we did go on to throw a U.S. wedding reception (3 years later!) for all of our friends and family who were unable to travel to Paris.

Photography by François Jorez and Winston Alford-Hamburg

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  1. Gaya

    love this series!

  2. This was timely, thank you.

    I’m engaged, living abroad, and struggling to chose a wedding location (my current home in Europe or my hometown in Canada). I’ve also wondered if a small wedding would feel ‘official’. I’m curious if your US wedding reception felt like one – or did it just feel like another party, since you hadn’t just said ‘I do’?

  3. eee! Thanks Brittany! So exciting to be part of this awesome series.

    JESS >> We said ‘I Do’ at our ceremony in Paris which was at the city hall (much to my surprise, it was beautiful and moving and the space itself was warm and elegant) so our event in Philadelphia was strictly a party. I think you can really make the ceremony your own, even if it isn’t religious or the large blow-out event that you dreamed about. Exchanging vows would be a wonderful way to make it feel more ‘real’.

  4. Beautiful couple & story!

  5. Everything looks so sweet, just as it was in person! Thanks for the post!

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