In a world where traditions are as diverse as the people celebrating them, inclusivity isn’t just a feature—it’s the foundation of a meaningful wedding. These 14 inclusive wedding pros from across the U.S. are reshaping what it means to plan with purpose. Through thoughtful design, personalized coordination, and affirming experiences, they’re offering couples more than just services—they’re helping create moments that truly welcome everyone.
Set the Tone Early—Inclusivity Begins with the First Question
“When touring a venue, ask whether they’ve hosted culturally diverse or LGBTQ+ weddings—and how they supported those couples,” says Kate Stevens of The Lake House Inn in Bucks County, PA. “It’s not about checking a box; it’s about whether their process respects identity from day one.”
Design for Presence, Not Just Aesthetics
Kathy Gibson of Occasions at Laguna Village in Laguna Beach, CA, encourages couples to think beyond visual beauty. “Make sure your layout works for every guest, from shaded ceremony spaces to accessible restrooms. Great design honors both form and feeling.”
Build Your Vibe with Intention
Music sets the tone, but so does everything around it. “Ask your DJ how they’ll approach transitions, special announcements, or pacing,” says Aly Raddatz of Elevated Events in Chicagoland. “We curate not just what plays, but when and why it plays—it’s storytelling through energy.”
Customization Over Conformity
“When you only host one wedding per day, the couple gets the full canvas,” shares Ian Dinnall of Sea Cliff Manor in Long Island, NY. “Ask your venue if they can accommodate your schedule and traditions without rushing. That flexibility is what makes personal touches possible.”
Make the Ceremony Yours, Fully and Freely
“Couples should ask their officiant how much input they’ll have in crafting the ceremony,” says Rev. Dr. Walter Hrycaj of Wah Joy, serving Kansas City, Springfield, and St. Louis. “A good officiant listens more than they speak during the planning process—that’s how real connection happens.”
Walk the Space With Everyone in Mind
“Inclusivity includes mobility,” says Greg Carlyle of the Millennium Event Center in Winston-Salem, NC. “As you plan your flow, picture a guest using a walker or pushing a stroller. Ask how the venue supports that reality—not just in function, but in comfort.”
Cultural Fluency Should Be a Given
Walter McClellan of Toast Entertainment, with teams in Austin, Dallas, Houston, San Antonio, South Texas, Long Island, and New Orleans, says, “Your DJ should know how to navigate a South Asian wedding or bilingual crowd without a crash course. Ask how they prep—if they’re seasoned, you’ll know right away.”
Freedom to Express Your Story
“At The Shire Wedding & Events, we always say yes to what’s meaningful,” says Katy Storry, who co-owns the Huntsville, TX venue. “If you want a cultural tea ceremony or a barefoot first dance, ask your venue if they support those expressions. That question reveals a lot about their values.”
Inclusive Planning Is About Alignment
“Ask your caterer or planner how they’ll coordinate with your other vendors,” advises Jeff Miller of Jeffrey A. Miller Hospitality Group, which serves PA, NJ, and DE. “Inclusivity breaks down when the team isn’t on the same page—especially around dietary needs or ceremonial timing.”
Make Technology Work for Everyone
“Ask how your AV team ensures every word of the vows is heard—on site and remotely,” says Matt Kays of Mountain Event Services in Fort Collins, CO and Southern WY. “That’s not a luxury—it’s basic respect for guests who want to witness your moment.”
Lodging Builds Connection Beyond the Timeline
Becky Beeson of Experience Oakhaven in Pelham, near Greensboro, NC, says couples should consider how overnight options foster belonging. “If you can, offer guests a place to gather before and after the main event. Weddings aren’t just days—they’re experiences that live in shared space.”
All-Inclusive Doesn’t Mean Impersonal
“Ask how your all-in-one venue coordinates behind the scenes,” says Cathie Ransom of Los Willows in Fallbrook, CA. “When AV, catering, and planning are aligned, couples don’t have to manage details on the day—and that frees them up to be fully present.”
Ask the Right Questions About Flexibility
“When couples ask me if I’ll ‘allow’ a change to the timeline, I tell them: it’s your day,” shares Lisa Ivler of Lisa Ivler Events in Caldwell, NJ. “Make sure your planner listens to your priorities before selling you on a set structure.”
Honor Every Appetite and Tradition
Peter Mitsaelides of Brooklake Events in Florham Park, NJ reminds couples to ask about everything from kosher meal prep to prayer break space. “A five-star event isn’t just about chandeliers—it’s about whether grandma has a soft seat and everyone can eat.”
Every Guest Counts
The best weddings aren’t just well planned—they’re purposefully planned. When couples partner with inclusive professionals who consider every guest’s needs, identities, and joy, they create more than a beautiful day—they build a celebration where everyone belongs. These are the pros making that possible, one detail at a time.
About the Author:
Known for his heart-led approach to marketing, Brian Lawrence helps wedding professionals build inclusive, accessible brands. In 2025, he launched the Inclusive Wedding Summit and continues to push for a more welcoming wedding industry online and off.