New guest blogger!

I’m so happy to introduce my first guest blogger…and hopefully not the last! Carl and I “met” on the Indiebride boards a few weeks back, and I knew instantly that he had to post about his wedding planning experiences….I’ll let his intro explain why….

About 6 months ago, I got engaged to the man of my dreams and started to plan our wedding. You’ve probably heard that about a million times before; it seems to be what so many women have hoped for ever since they were little girls.

Thing is, I’m a guy.

For my journey “down the lavender aisle,” there aren’t any roadmaps for me to follow. I don’t have any other gay or lesbian friends who have reached this point in their lives. And some of the gay wedding books out there are so, how can I put this eloquently, cheesy, not to mention condescending and already outdated.

I recognize that – gasp – there are more gay people like I who are going through this without any other perspective as they try to navigate how to plan a gay marriage, commitment ceremony, or celebration of their lives together. It seems a lot of people on this wonderful blog recognize this as well…

When Brooklyn Bride asked me if I would be interested in guest blogging about my planning experience, I jumped at the chance. At home with my partner, I’m only allowed to talk about wedding plans on Sunday nights. After dinner. For an hour. Max.

Now I have an outlet!

I don’t want to be presumptuous and say that I have all the answers. Hardly. What I will promise is to share my experience with you and give you a frank, inside look at my planning process – forks in the path, road blocks and all. From my engagement to breaking the news to our parents to finding the perfect venue to finding an officiant…any officiant!, I hope you’ll appreciate my stories, get a laugh from them, or potentially even garner some ideas for your own wedding/ceremony/celebration.

Maybe you have a gay friend who is getting married. Maybe you are that gay friend. Regardless, I hope you at least find my musings entertaining and I hope you will share your thoughts with me along the way!

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Why “lavender”?

In Ancient Greece, the Greek word for lavender supposedly also meant a gay man. In the 60s, the color became popular as a symbol for gay pride. And in recent years, it has been used to describe powerful gay executives in the media and other industries, “the lavender mafia.” So when it came time to name the blog, “down the gay aisle” just didn’t cut it. To get my point across, I borrowed a shade with a colorful gay history and “down the lavender aisle” was born.

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  1. deanna

    congratulations on your engagement, carl! i can’t wait to hear more.

  2. Oh Happy Blog!

    I am tickled pink to have this perspective… there are such limited GOOD resources here in Jacksonville for the gay/lesbian wedding market… I’ll be sure to send a few brides and grooms your way…

  3. meladoriem

    Congrats, Carl! This is great. I was just having a conversation about this over the weekend about how there should be more gay wedding resources out there. It was as if you heard me… 😉

  4. Merrilee Diaz

    Hi Carl, Welcome and congratulations!! I can’t wait to hear more about your wedding!

  5. Raakhee

    Carl! Congrats. I am SO in to your journey and can’t wait to read more about it. Good luck!

  6. little dough BIG Dream

    Talk about trying to balance non-traditional and traditional elements in your ceremony, I hadn’t even thought how difficult it would be from a gay perspective. I can’t wait to read your ideas!

  7. alexis

    New to this blog, I can’t believe I didn’t find it earlier, it is awesome by the way. And this was a great thing to read this morning. It’s not a perspective you get often, especially with all those ridiculous laws restricting gay marriage. So congratulations and I excited to hear all about it!

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