So I’ve got a question….

For all you ladies married or engaged, I’m curious, whats the deal with this changing your name personally, but keeping your maiden name professionally…specifically, what are the logistics with all this? I’m thinking this is the route I’m going to be taking, but I’m unsure as to what items I need to change, i.e. drivers license, Social Security, credit cards, etc. If you change some things and not others, does it mess up other things, like taxes? So confusing….

I’d love to hear your thoughts…..

And hey, if you ARE one of the many planning on changing your name, I would try the MissNowMrs program….I’m completely lazy and clueless when it comes to this stuff, but this program makes it so much easier….

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  1. Alli

    Has anyone you know used the MissNowMrs program? It sounds too good to be true…I’d love to find out what users thought of it.

    I am hyphenating my name, because I love my maiden name so much, but also want to take my future husband’s name. I figure it offers the best of both worlds. And I’m not too established yet in my career that I would NEED to keep my maiden name.

  2. Anonymous

    I have a friend who used the MsnowMrs site and she swears that it really is as good as they say it is.

    Because of legal reasons I am Hyphenating my name for passports, taxes, ss #, etc. But I am keeping my name as-is in all non-legal ways. After 29 years with one name, I really feel strongly about maintaining my identity both professionally and personally. I love my family, and I am proud about the reputation I have established in my career. I feel there is no reason to give that up just because I am married! I of course will be fine with any children we have taking their fathers name as is the tradition, but I’m staying me!

  3. mugbug

    I’m changing my name personally but not professionally and what you do is change it on everything except business cards and emails. So anyone who would get ahold of you through your company’s website or via email would have your maiden name. Everything else, driver’s license passport everything, you would loegally change to your new Mrs. Name. And it helps people if professionally you go by Ms. too – they assume you are married as you are not a Miss. That’s what I’m doing. Hope its helpful!

  4. Katie

    I’m published under my maiden name and would need this for my CV, resume, etc. Hmm – not sure what I’m going to do.

  5. elizabeth @ elizabeth anne designs

    here’s my two cents – i’ve been married for 9 years, and i changed my name personally but not professionally. if i had to do it over again, i’d not change at all.
    scenario 1) you have to book a plane ticket at work. you and your travel department are on the phone and you are trying to explain why your name is wrong on the ticket.
    scenario 2) your CPA license or GMAT scores are under your legal name b/c you need ID to enter, but your employer checks your references under your maiden name b/c that’s what is on your resume.
    scenario 3) your boss knows you as elizabeth smith but your husband’s last name is jones, yet when he introduces you to his wife at the christmas party he calls your husband john smith. ugly.

    i highly recommend all women to choose one or the other (and i am a huge advocate of keeping your own name – if he doesn’t change his why should you change yours?)

  6. M.

    Like Katie, I am published under my maiden name and received some fellowships with my maiden name – in academia, everything about a person is usually in print so if they (whoever it is, conference committees, editors, professors, etc.) see me with my new last name, even with my maiden name in an initial (I am making it my middle name legally as I do not have a middle name) they will now know who I am. I guess I will make it clear to anyone who knows me as my maiden name that I use it professionally, and not personally.

    So in short – job/school/academia: maiden name at least when I publish stuff or when my name is on the class register (when I do become a professor hopefully!). Legally – maiden name as middle, his last name (paychecks, ID, etc. etc.). But I am not going to change my passport until it expires in 2014, because for the reasons above: I need to go back to Japan to do research and they are very finicky about names here.

    My mom has her maiden name and married name on several pieces of ID – her passport and green card are her maiden name and everything else is married. So she always carries a small copy of her marriage certificate in her wallet, which is what I will do in case there is any confusion or trouble.

  7. Diane Zerr

    I changed my name personally and professionally immediately after the honeymoon. I haven’t run into a single problem and all I had to do was let people know that it changed. Changing it was easy and I have had no snags at all!

    It was bit odd at first but now I think it’s great that I have the same last name as my husband and my son. It was hard to explain that mommy had a different name than he did. Just something to think about.

  8. Anonymous

    My best friend kept her maiden name for professional reasons, and did not change it legally. However, she uses her husband’s last name for all personal affairs, including email and everything else outside of work. It’s working well for her – all of her friends call her Mrs. Newname, and she just uses her maiden name for work, plane tickets, etc. I am going to change my name, and my fiance is changing his middle name to my maiden name.

  9. Melissa Jade

    As a teacher i did have to consider keeping my maiden name professionally. Apparently it’s a big pain in the ass to change it on all of our certifications (tons of paperwork).

    But i said fuck it- I’m a Murphy in a few months and i plan to stay that way a LONG time…

  10. Rebecca

    I don’t plan on changing my mine. I’m 32 years old and having a different name seems strange to me. Any future children we have will have my fiance’s name, and its really not a big deal to explain to kids about that kind of thing. Children are very intelligent and don’t have hangups about things that adults have. Also culturally speaking my name is Spanish (and part of my identity) and my fiance’s isn’t.

  11. Meg

    My boyfriends mother did this (in the only way I would ever consider doing it). She didn’t legally changed her name, but she uses her married name as a personal alias. AKA, you use it at parties, on your kids permission slips, but not legally. Now, over the years it’s blurred a bit. Still not legal, but sometimes she has both (maden then married) on charge cards. She’s been fine with that for more then 30 years!

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